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There’s one thing my best girlfriend and I love to chat about when we get together and that’s sex. Who’s having it (or had it) with whom, where, how/why they did it, and how often. I’m surprised that in an LDS circle of friends we have so much to talk about when it comes sex, but we’ve agreed that this too will pass as we all get older and our thoughts turn to erectile dysfunction, incontinence, or constipation.
As it now stands, if her husband were to join a naked line-up of men with paper bags on their heads, I’d place good money on my being able to pick him out even though I’ve only seen him in Dockers and a polo. You could say that when they have sex, I get a little piece of the action as well and trust me people, I’m not asking for it. One of the reasons she’s my best friend is because she’s one of the few people who can make my jaw drop and then show up to lead the primary music looking like she just came from an Ensign photo shoot. No one would suspect a thing and she’s probably living right next to you! Maybe she is you…
Well, recently, one of our discussions turned to how frequently we're having sex. I wasn’t real comfortable with this topic because it’s my husband’s biggest gripe and I felt even worse after she revealed they were having sex at least twice a week. They even had a month where they tried to have sex every day… I’d go blind after a week! Then last night I read in Cookie Magazine’s “Mrs. Young” section that their poll revealed- “…manage to have sex once a week (19 percent) or even more often (32 percent). Plus, 77 percent of us say we would like to have sex more frequently. The result that caused me the most worry, though, was the 18 percent who say they do it only a couple of times a year.” www.cookiemag.com/homefront/mrsyoung/2008/04/mrsyoungmay
Alright, what person with kids wouldn’t say they wanted sex more frequently---um, should I scrub off the high chair for the fifth time today or have sex? And, okay, those people only having sex a few times a year, God bless you, you make wives like me look like an energized harlot. So, here’s the solution to maintaining frequency that my celestial sex partner and I came up with—the “Sunday Sextacular,” and yes, it was me who came up with the name. Now all he does is hiss "SS" in my ear and I know I'm on the hook as we've dedicated Sunday night as our night to have sex come hell or high water. Think of it as a naughty Family Home Evening for adults, but without an opening hymn. While yeah, the mood may strike to have sex on another night, our SS is locked in on the calendar no matter what. (Note to home teachers and my mother: now you know one of the reasons we say "no" to Sunday night visits and why we don't answer the phone) One of the many benefits to a planned Sunday night rendezvous is it will have you waking up Monday morning starting the new week with a smile on your face.
Like a waterfall in slow motion, Part One
2 years ago
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I know I sure wish it were more often in my house...except around here I happen to be the only one complaining. My husband has just never had a matching drive. The fact that television seems to be more of a priority has been a thorn in my side more than once, but one sure way to get it a little more often is to wait for him to fall asleep and then start to coax him awake with sexy little touches and kisses and whispers. It takes a long time sometimes, and I don't wake rested the next day, but I feel okay anyway.
We are the opposite, my sex drive is almost nil. I don't know why, I've even been to a doctor and all my hormone levels are normal so who knows what's going on.
We used to be the couple times a year sort but that almost killed my husband. We do it more frequently now, but I still wish I wanted it more, then it would be more fulfilling for us both.
Wish I had the answers...
I don't have a very active sex drive. I had alot of trouble conceiving but was very determined to do so. This translated to having ALOT of sex. In fact every other day for the better part of a year. I found that because we were on this schedule it put a lot of pressure on us to keep things fun. We would try and find ways to surprise each other and to be more romantic. I found that the more sex we had the higher my sex drive was. After we gave up on trying to conceive and went the adoption route my sex drive dropped back off. I'm pretty determined now to get back on some sort of schedule (probably not every other day because that's pretty time consuming) but I'm hopeful my sex drive will go back up if our intimate time together increases.
Trying different positions will definitely help your drive....especially doggie style-talk about crazy sh-t. Usually we have sex at least once a week or a few times during one day, instead of going to church or reading the scriptures. Sometimes it makes me feel closer to Jesus. We do have a picture of him on our wall. Anyways, it's hard to keep your husband happy. But we all try!
Whew! I thought I was the only one with the Sunday Sex Promise... something about feeling that spirit all day that just....oh, and when DH wants things 'extra special' I know it because he will come to church with me :).
That's a crack-up because it's the reverse, my DH gets it 'extra special' if I don't have to go!
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